"Do
you do yoga with your son?" I'm asked this question pretty consistently.
The answer: yes and no. When I was asked to film a class with him for YogaGlo, I wasn't sure. My
work is to serve my students from an educated, experiential place, and I
haven't been trained to teach yoga to kids. Art for kids, yes. Yoga for kids,
no.
Our
attempts at practicing together essentially consist of me doing two sun
salutations and a few standing poses, 4-year-old Jonah walking all over me,
transforming my back into a pony ride and holding on for dear life as I lift
from up dog back into down dog — both of us laughing all the way. Depending on
the day, we may get in a flying angel and some handstands. We just do what we
do. Then, once a week, the wonderful JoAnna
Ross lights
the path for him at New Field
Yoga in New York City. He always
comes back from JoAnna's class happy, a bit softer, somehow, and with some new
animal pose to show me. And (maybe best of all!) he always sleeps super soundly
that night.
Yoga
directly empowers children to engage in self-respect and respect for others.
Kids who practice enjoy long attention spans, enhanced patience, self-esteem,
confidence, refined motor coordination, better balance, more creativity and
better concentration. From my own limited experience, my peers who were raised
on yoga can claim all of these qualities, and perhaps more importantly, when
they do falter emotionally or physically, their practice is there to unconditionally
support their healing.
The
most lasting impressions we make on our children relate to how we handle the unexpected
shifts in our "plans" — how we navigate the terrain of any day with
elegance instead of reactivity when things go awry. When we create space for
acceptance, no matter what comes, we are practicing yoga. So even if our
"plan" for a practice (or any activity) doesn't quite materialize (an
example of which you will see below), our task is to stay in our own hearts,
accept what our children need, and try to speak to them where they are. Our
intent is to make space for our children to be in their hearts more (sometimes),
and to be in the moment — through breathing and enjoying their physicality. This
should never feel like a chore. As you'll see I managed that sometimes, and forgot other times, which
is why I can speak about it so clearly (self-deprecating smile here).
To
plan my class for filming (I'd hoped to present something more akin to the creative
classes offered by the pros), I checked out my favorite kid yoga teachers
(listed below, most of whom have graced me with their presence in my class over
the years), and then happened upon an article by Sarah Herrington in "New York Yoga Magazine." Most of what Jonah and I tried to do in our "class" was inspired
by her piece.
For
parents or educators who would like to incorporate more heart connection into
time with their kids, I hope this is remotely useful. It's just a few
minutes; my attempt to share with you some of what resonates with us. So when
Jonah begins to literally dart around the room and burn off some energy running
and jumping on the very tempting blanket islands, don't worry, he manages to
rein it back in.
Video: Real Yoga With Kids
No
matter how truncated or how vastly the actuality of your practice differs from
your "plan," remember it's still a practice. I thought I'd want
to re-record this, make it somehow more "perfect". But when I viewed the
moments of placing my hand on Jonah's heart, asking him to tell me when he's
full of love (like I do when I drop him off at school when he has a hard time
parting ways), or of our final "namaste," I realize that although I'm
not formally trained, the meaning I've communicated from my own heart, time and
time again, has made an impact on his understanding of what is possible. He is
able to connect to his heart and can actively articulate a transmission of love
from his mama to his own being. Kids of any age will resonate with that, as long
as it's really true for us.
Important note: Yoga for kids does not
include — nor imply — religion of any kind. Taught well and authentically, yoga
for kids simply provides physical and emotional tools that encourage them to
access their mind, body and spirit articulately and absolutely.
Considering yoga for
your little one? Some questions to ask yourself: Would I like a few moments every
day, or even once a week to connect with my child/ren more deeply, straight from
my heart? Would I like to show my child/ren a sure path to emotional stability,
and greater freedom from reactivity later in life?
Place
your free hand on your own heart right now. Invite some love in, make space for
it with your next breath and invite it in — then exhale. Now, invite confidence
with your next breath — then exhale. Now some patience with
another inhalation — then exhale. Invite any quality you deem important,
anytime you feel necessary. Once you've become comfortable doing that for
yourself, try it with your child, or your partner. It's all yoga of a sort,
teaching us how to be more accepting and emotionally articulate, most
importantly, with ourselves.
Some of my favorites:
World Family Yoga
Yoga by the Dozen
Next Generation Yoga
Karma Kids Yoga
Angel Bear Yoga
Asana Alphabet
Bija Kids
Elena Brower, Certified Anusara Yoga Teacher, is the founder and co-owner of Virayoga, and mama to 4-year-old Jonah. Teaching for more than 13 years, she's been featured in "The New York Times," "Yoga Journal," FitYoga and the Element Yoga Beginner DVD series.